I am not sure how I stumbled upon Unbound by Kasia Urbaniak, but I am thankful to have read this book. The lessons inside Unbound are life-changing
Kasia is a former dominatrix and trained Taoist nun, which may seem like a paradox, but she expertly melds these seemingly opposite practices to teach women how to communicate and persuade from a place of power.
Unbound is a practical guide with no fluff. You’ll know exactly how to implement the lessons Kasia presents in her book. She also weaves in stories of her former students to help illustrate her point.
I especially love how Kasia teaches us how to respond when someone asks a question that normally freezes us. Hint: It’s all about asking a question back. You’ll have to read Unbound for a more in-depth description, but trust me when I say, you’ll love having this tool in your back pocket. I’ve already used Kasia’s technique with great success!
My big takeaways:
#1: Submissive doesn’t mean weak.
I’ll admit I usually turn my nose up at the term submissive. It feels like a loss of power and strength. Thanks to Kasia’s lessons, I now know that submissive is a strong, powerful position – one that can help you get what you want in ways that feel empowering.
#2: Ask without reservation.
Kasia writes, “Women often hesitate to ask because they have been trained to believe that asking will create an implied debt…” (page 138)
Ding, ding, ding!
I am the queen of the Internal Scorecard. And I often don’t want to ask for something because I worry about how I will have to “pay it back.”
But I am worthy of asking without fear of what the payback will be, or if the payback will even occur. (You are too!)
Loud Woman, let’s not be afraid of asking. Let’s know we are worthy of asking for what we want, need, or deserve. And if someone thinks you owe them something that you don’t want to deliver, you can say no. Period.
If you want to learn about how to speak from a place of power, or how to handle tough situations (especially with men), or how to stick up for yourself, then be sure to add Unbound to your reading list. This is content you probably have never read before, but once you’ve read it, you wonder how you have lived your life without it.
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